Every once in a while a post goes viral, not sure why one seems to grab more attention than some others. This is a repeat of a post that I did in January and one that has had many thousands of page views and been pinned so many times it amazes me. I thought maybe it was worth a repeat. Hope you find it helpful.
If you are like me your style has bounced all over the board. What I like has changed about a dozen times in my life and it is still evolving. I think I have finally found what makes me most comfortable and what makes my home look and feel like me.
There are quite a few things I have learned from some fabulous bloggers, designers and pinterest. If you pay attention to what you are constantly drawn to from all the fabulous homes and rooms we see in magazines, online and our favorite blogs, then you can pretty soon figure out what you like and makes you feel comfortable. Here are some of my most important design tips that help me every day.
FINDING YOUR STYLE – #1
Every designer says you have to know your style. Well I haven’t known what my style is for years, mainly because all the names given to the different styles have changed over time and I just couldn’t keep up. I really don’t think it is such a big deal to know exactly what your style is. I think it is much more important to know what you like and feel comfortable with. My style really is a mix of several things. Using todays terms, mostly I am Traditional with a bit of Contemporary and sometimes a touch of Modern Farmhouse. If you put all of these elements together for a collected over time look, then that suits me to a tee.
Yvonne of Stone Gable described every style better than I have seen recently.
3. ACQUAINT YOURSELF WITH DECOR VOCABULARY
Get to know decor styles and what makes them distinct. Here are just a few styles…
- TRADITIONAL – Think refined, familiar and comfortable. Not old and dated but classic.
- COUNTRY – traditional time-worn furnishings, warm, flea market, milk paint, ironstone, a feeling of comfort and home, NOT your mother’s or grandmother’s country! Think of small estate living.
- CONTEMPORARY -sleek, clean lines and subdued colors, pop of color added, low to the ground furnishings, few extras. Think urban living.
- FARMHOUSE-inspired by farmland and utility. Functional items, lots of galvanized metal, wood floors, white paneled walls, big kitchens, porches, rocking chairs. Think of StoneGable!
- MODERN- minimal furniture, stark, uncluttered, white with black accents. Think George Jetson!
- COASTAL- influence by the sea, airy rooms with light fabrics, whites and colors of the sea, nautical accents. Think beautiful homes on the ocean.
- COTTAGE- furnishings that show a little wear, botanical prints, wrought iron beds, quilts, cozy feel, fresh white paint on planked walls, open windows. Think sheer curtains wafting on a light breeze!
- INDUSTRIAL- raw unfinished look, lots of metal, exposed pipes and pipes in design, open shelving, unfinished look. Think warehouse.
- ECLECTIC- a mix of styles and periods that work together because of a common element like color. Think mix and match!
COLOR – #2
I once used wallpaper in almost every room and used a ton of pattern. Then I went with some color on the walls and even color for accent walls. Now I am just an all white NEUTRAL girl. Neutral doesn’t have to be white. It can be white, beige or gray or any thing that speaks to you. I love having a neutral base so I can add in color whenever I want to.
I use to add a ton of color with my furnishings. I’ve had a brown sofa, a green sofa, a gold sofa and currently have a camel colored settee – however I’ve found that for me a neutral (white or cream) sofa and chairs makes me the most happy. You guys have some fabulous rooms with some beautiful jewel toned sofas and chairs and they look amazing, so if that is you, then go for it. I don’t want my neutral to be an all white room, I love to add tons of color with pillows, wall art and other accessories.
Neutral is simply what makes me happy. However I love some of the rooms you guys put together with really dark walls or an accent dark wall. They are very now, trendy and chic. If that is your thing, then by all means, paint those walls and enjoy. Remember when we moved into our last house I painted the kitchen Dark Chocolate? If you drool over all those dark moody walls in every picture you see, then you definitely need to create that look in your own home.
Is this bathroom stunning or what?
ROOM SIZE & SCALE – #3
This is the one that gets me most often and makes me wonder what was I thinking and how do I fix this. Every home I’ve lived in has challenges. Some rooms are so big you can’t seem to fill them up and all your furniture looks like it belongs in a doll house. Then other rooms look big but really that is only an illusion. In a previous home the living room was so large that I used two large scale tuxedo sofas and also two wing chairs with a really massive coffee table. Most of my other homes have not been this big, so I really needed to learn something about scale. Using larger furniture instead of a dozen small pieces fit my large room and made it comfortable. Filling spaces with lots of little pieces of furniture will make it feel disjointed and not inviting.
In my new home, two story walls make the space seem much larger than it really is. Then add in a dining area that adjoins the living area and you have to really pay attention to the scale of your furniture. If you have been following along then you know that some rooms in our new house have really thrown me for a loop. Finding the right furniture arrangement and furniture pieces that fit the space and scale of these rooms has been a trial and error for sure. Again my all white walls and furniture help to blend everything together and don’t take up so much visual space in smaller rooms, but the scale of that furniture is what really makes the most difference.
Scale is the size or dimension of a piece of furniture. How much actual floor space or visual space does the item take up.
This sofa is one that is an illusion. It is a traditional rolled arm – 3 seat style but it is small in scale. It is only 78″ long. The white tufted chair is slightly more narrow than most and has a rounded back that is not a full-blown wing-back. The other chair has open arms so it looks smaller in scale too. The biggest thing that helped this room was removing my dark traditional coffee table and bringing in a modern brass and glass one. The scale is small on this table and it virtually disappears in the room.
Here are some trials & errors trying to get this room right.
This is the same arrangement and furniture I had in my previous home. It doesn’t work here.
The coffee table is way too big and using both chairs in the front window is way too crowded. This was not really functional in real life at all.
Next I switched out the coffee table and changed up chairs. This really did function, however it still wasn’t the look I wanted. The big mirror was fabulous in my last home, but here it was way off balance and totally overpowered the whole room. The dark leather chair with the dark wood furniture seemed to crowd the room. All the dark wood took up way too much visual space.
See how much more open and stylish this looks. Small changes – different mirror more to scale – white chair in place of the leather melts into the walls – glass coffee table disappears into the room. Getting to this place has been hard. I didn’t need to get rid of everything in my room, I just needed to refine and rethink the pieces that I use and how they affect the overall look and feel of the space.
This also didn’t cost a fortune either. The new mirror is a great focal point and is the right scale and size for this space. It cost $199. The white chair was in the master bedroom, so it was a matter of simply swapping it out for the leather one. The glass coffee table was on sale for $149. Everything else in the room remained the same. So for a very small investment, this room was totally transformed.
I am the worlds worst about getting attached to furniture pieces that I have used and loved for years and it makes it hard for me to step back and visualize something new. Create a mood board, pin a dozen different rooms you love and then look at your own space and try to figure out how to achieve that same look. You can slipcover furniture, or even paint it and there are tons of fabulous thrift stores where you can find pieces that will fit the aesthetic and scale of your room.
Accessories – #4
This is where I like to go wild. I use tons of color in pillows and throws. This is where I also indulge myself with trendy accessories that will be a fad for a while and then gone. I have pillows and accessories in every color, orange, red, blue, shocking pink, green, rust, black, brown and fur. I show my color in not only pillows and throws, but candles and floral arrangements too. If you find a trendy accessory that you like, and it is not an investment, then go for it. Have a ball and indulge all of your wildest desires. Mix things up and create some interesting vignettes that showcase your taste and style.
This shows how you really can use any color in a neutral space. Shocking pink and even royal blue work, and of course I use a lot of orange or rust, but mix them up and use them with surprising coordinates. Adding gray to the orange instead of brown totally works.
Gold was a fad a while back, now I consider it a staple. Here I shared a few tutorials of how to turn an ugly duckling or plain glass into today’s trends. I am still a believer that you can have fabulous and trendy accessories on a budget. A little DIY and paint can transform anything into something you will love. So try something new, it really isn’t as hard as you might think.
DO YOU – #5 to #100
What ever you like it is perfect for your home. It doesn’t matter if it is the latest trend or if it is from the 50’s, if it makes you happy, then go for it. I have been so guilty in the past of decorating to fit my environment. (lots of primitive antiques when I lived in the mountains in Oregon) Then I joined the blue and white movement which is gorgeous, but totally not me. I love a few blue accents but I am not a gal that feels comfortable in a blue room. I thrive in warm autumn colors. I’ve also had Danish Modern in the past. It was ME for that period in my life, but not me now. I have pretty much been a Traditional gal for years. I just mix it up with a few trends, a little contemporary, and even some modern farmhouse and it seems to fit me and feels comfortable to me.
Just remember, you live in your home and yes, we all want our home to be fashionable and chic, however, it has to feel good to us. So try to figure out the combination of things and styles that you really like and it will be fashionable and chic.
I do believe we all can appreciate something from any style, but most of all I think we have
to DO YOU.
Once I finally started DOING ME, my home felt good and made me happy.
This is a wonderful post Marty. It’s full of good information, ideas, and most importantly….no judgement. I’ve been doing the ‘Do You’ for quite a few years…and in my mind, it’s the only thing that has made me comfortable in my own home. This post is worth reading time and time again. Thanks! Enjoy your Day! 😉
Great post and tips Marty. Bottom line is if you decorate with what you love you will always be happy. Have a great new week ahead.
Hugs,
Kris
So enjoy your posts Marty! I love traditional also, because it is so easy to blend in a few new things without doing a complete makeover. I really like the white cushions and pillows on you patio!